Men Are Not Made For Cages

For all the amazing men.

ASHLIN HORNE

Remember that “Plan B” blog post that I wrote like a year ago? Yeah, well there’s a reverse side to it as well. So, here’s what we’ve all been waiting for… the follow up article has finally arrived! 


The reality is, you’re convenient.

I wish you could really see that, and I wish you could see the injustice it is. For someone to have made you a convenience, a decoration, a luxury for their selfishness. That simply is a crying shame.

You deserve far more than just being her coat rack, the thing she keeps in the corner to hold her stuff until she’s ready to take it all back; and I’m sorry to say that she will. She will come and get that coat and you’ll be left bare in the corner. Don’t stand around and let that happen.

I wish I could make you believe it…

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Can the declining number of people calling themselves Christian actually be a good thing?

Rick Schmitz

A Pew Research study came out this week indicating there is a rise in those who call themselves “nones” – those who claim no religious affiliation and a general decline in those calling themselves Christians.

The study states:

“the number of religiously unaffiliated adults has increased by roughly 19 million since 2007. There are now approximately 56 million religiously unaffiliated adults in the U.S., and this group – sometimes called religious “nones” – is more numerous than either Catholics or mainline Protestants, according to the new survey.” – Click here or on the link below for the survey and article from Pew 

And, as you would expect, this has caused quite an uproar.  The tribe calling itself Christian are up in arms and really, really worried.

Frankly, I find it refreshing.

I find it refreshing because I don’t believe that we are seeing a seismic shift in what people believe. I believe…

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A girl with too many blogs

I have 3 blogs.

Unfortunately this means that I sometimes will neglect one blog for another blog.

Checkout these:

http://www.commissioned61.wordpress.com

This is my missions blog.  Read about my recent trip to Cambodia and what it’s like to be back in the states.

http://www.worldchangediary.wordpress.com

This is my main blog where I talk about life, the bible, God, and whatever other deep thoughts arrive in my head.

If you’re wondering about this blog, well, it’s the blog where I don’t feel the need to articulate my thoughts as eloquently.  I like to make lists.  I like to rant a little bit.  I like reblog things and put short litte blurbs.  It’s that kind of blog.

Enjoy. 🙂

A Preacher’s Daughter

I have a confession to make:

I am a preacher’s daughter.

My dad has been in ministry ever since I can remember.  He’s an elder in the denomination I grew up in and gets to sit right next to the pastor in the pulpit.  As much as that can be interpreted as subtle sarcasm, it is not actually was not meant to be.  It can be a wonderful experience to have a father that has answered the Lord’s call and devoted himself to the ministry.  However, being a preacher’s daughter is something that most people will never completely understand.

First of all,  growing up I always felt the pressure to be more than simply “good enough” beause anything I did would reflect negatively on his parenting and ultimately his ministry.  Whether this fear was real or irrational, I don’t completely know.  But I do know that there definitely are those people that judge others based on the choices of their children which is completely unfair.  Even now, I still feel people question everything that I am becoming as I venture out into the world on my own.

Second, you are forever identified by whose child you are.  In certain circles, if I say my last name I am already associated as an elder’s daughter.  Again, this is not necessarily a bad thing, but people often carry preconceived notions about who I am and what I should act like.  Sometimes it just nice to be Haley, with absolutely no association to my dad’s ministry.

Third, when your father plays an important role in the running of the church, it may mean that you almost live at church (especially if it’s on the smaller side).  If the doors were open, you were probably there.  “I’m tired” was never a valid excuse.  

Fourth, people always want to talk to you, but it’s hardly ever about the things you actually want to talk about, at least until you get older.  No one realizes that preachers’ kids question their faith, leave the church, have life struggles.  If you know a preacher’s kid, give them a break from the church and take them to a playground or a movie or coffee.  That’s where real life happens anyway.

Fifth, my dad being a preacher is not the only reason I’m a Chrstian.  Yes, my parents raised me in church and showed me love and taught me about God (it is truly a blessing), but in the end, if I had never had a personal experience with God, I WOULD NOT be following Christ.

Lastly, not all preachers’ kids are destined for the ministry.  That is a particular call God has placed on some of our lives, but not all.  It is okay for a pk to go into business, medicine, science, or any other field that’s not full-time ministry.  And it is perfectly fine if they make that their place of ministry.

Trust me, it is a wonderful blessing to a have a father that is able to speak the word of God to others and tries to embody what it means to be a man of God.  But as a preacher’s daughter, I think my life is pretty normal, lacking any special expectations or requirements.  It’s a part of who I am, but not necessarily my identity.  

I am just Haley.

Feast with the King

my other blog 🙂

Diary of a World Changer

Recently I have been reading The Ragamuffin Gospel by Brennan Manning (which is an amazing book by the way) and chapter 3 discusses how Jesus fraternized with the ungodly, unworthy, and completely unclean.  He called them to his table and ate with them.  This symbolized love, brotherhood, approval, forgiveness, and acceptance.  This would have been the most non-socially acceptable thing for the so-called Son of God to do.

So often I think that Christians play the part of the Jesus at the table rather than his table-mates.  It is we who set the standard of purity and holiness, calling out to the sinners to come and eat with us.  It’s like we feel that if the dying and dirty spend time with us they will be clean…But this is NOT the gospel.

The gospel calls US to the table, not them.  Jesus gives us a personal invitation and with our…

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Leaving Room

I’ve found in my life that nothing is set in stone…or maybe that the only thing set in stone is Jesus.  Either way, life is full of curve balls; it’s full of changes and new adventures.  This is especially true for my life.

Let me just tell you about my schedule for next semester: I have probably changed it no less than 15 times.

I’m trying to go to Pakistan next summer and it looks like the trip will be cancelled.

I’ve found myself at a place where I can’t even plan because life is changing so quickly.

But change can be good. In the midst of all this chaos, God has had the most amazing people walk into my life.  He is beginning to cultivate my gift of poetry, reminding me of the power of my words.  He has given me people that speak life into my dreams and believe in me.  He has showed me that my past struggles can help others heal.  He has rekindled my heart for intercession and covering people, dreams, and fears in prayer.  He renewed my passion.

So here’s a few things God has been teaching me in this season.

  1. Everyone wants someone to fight for them. It seems like a weird concept, but couldn’t be more true.  Life is a struggle and everyone is looking for someone to look them in the eyes and say “I’m with you.”  Someone who won’t give up on you, but will pray for and dream with you.  Are you willing to go to battle for someone’s soul, for their light to outshine their darkness, for them to not settle for ordinary, but become something extraordinary? Fight for someone.
  2. Words matter. Mean them.  There is possibly no greater feeling than someone telling you that they’re proud of you or that they believe in you, someone speaking your worth to you.  Be truthful, even if it hurts.  If you can’t tell someone the truth, then you may have made your relationship with them an idol.  I am on my own journey to speak truth that only the Holy Spirit can dictate.  Eph 4:15 …speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ.
  3. Timing is EVERYTHING!  This year has left me wondering why so many new relationships. Why now? Why these people? All I can figure is that in God’s divine plan I need these people in my life at this time.  I don’t know how long some people will stay or under what circumstances they will leave, but I know that he has something for me to give and something for me to gain from the people around me.

God has a plan. Life is an adventure.  Spare no time loving people.

AND

LEAVE ROOM FOR THE HOLY SPIRIT!

25 things every woman needs to know.

Love this!

1) Life is a steep, uphill battle but it’s fierce & it’s beautiful & you’ll be sad to see it go if you live it right.

2) New people won’t stop coming into your life and opportunities won’t stop knocking on the door but you need to have the space for them. In all you currently have– be them relationships or obligations– step back and ask yourself “why.” If you can find the answer, hold tighter. If the answer escapes you, it’s time to let something go.

3) You should resolve to be awesome for the rest of your life. Right now. Do it.

4) Leggings, no matter how much we wish, will never one day magically transform into pants. Wearing them with tops that don’t cover your bum is not cute. Please, please, please stock up on pants.

5) Goals are not a January 1st kind of thing. Set…

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Sophomore Year {the struggle}

This year has been pretty interesting to say the least.  God has been blessing me with a plethora of new friendships.  However, there has been one theme that keeps resurfacing:

STRUGGLE.

Why is it that we have made it taboo to be in the midst of a struggle? to have a lifelong struggle?

This year I have never been more aware of my struggles both past and present…and things that will probably continue into my future.  I have realized the beauty of the struggle and struggling with others.  God is making me completely aware of my struggles and helping me to reconcile them to Himself.

So Here’s a few:

1. My sister accused me of not being Christ-like.  I don’t like criticism, but I apologized.

2. Soccer has not been going as I’ve planned it.  It hurts to trust Him, but I am doing it.

3. I still feel that the body of Christ is often an unsafe place to share my struggles with.  He is calling me to vulnerability and I am walking in it.

4. Sometimes my passions reveal all too much about my struggles. I don’t want to be judged, but I must fight for what I believe is right.

5. Sharing my writing is a scary feeling. God tells me to speak His words and I am opening my mouth in obedience.

Let’s Struggle Together

Romans 5:2-5

…And we boast in the hope of the glory of God. Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us.